1. Stop comparing yourself to other people

2. Stop being a perfectionist

3. Stop complaining

4. Stop surrounding yourself with negative people

I wanted to share these four tips as I listened to this podcast at a very crucial time. I was going through some self-doubt, and I couldn't help but compare myself to other people. It made me feel anxious all over again. It made me bothered as to what am I doing with my life. All these tiny efforts that I was making, do they serve any purpose at all? 

I stumbled upon this podcast when I was starting to have all these questions popping out of my mind. And while listening to it, I suddenly felt grateful. Somehow, I felt like the podcast was an affirmation that I was still on the right track... that I was still making some progress. I shouldn't take those little steps for granted, as they're actually helping me to understand myself better.

One of the things that really struck me was when it mentioned the first tip, stop comparing yourself to other people. If there was any person that you need to compare yourself with, it would be the person you were yesterday. Compare yourself as to who you were six months ago, a year ago... and seeing the progress you're doing would actually make you feel better about yourself. 

This inspired me to write down all the things I noted on myself that weren't present before. I listed one by one the traits I see myself now that wasn't there before. I wrote out being patient and being mindful of how I spend my time. 

Another one is understanding that I cannot please all people. I really struggled to become a people pleaser. I would go all means to fit into the mold as to what people expect me to be. But now, I realized that my happiness doesn't rely on people liking me. Rather, I should focus more on just being pleased with myself. No matter how hard I'll try, all the people I encounter in my life will not all like me. And that's absolutely fine. The important thing is that now I know to ensure that I make myself happier, before sacrificing who I am so that people will be pleased. 

Even if March had been a challenging one, it still reminded me to always keep moving forward and that I'm gaining more than I know of. 

How about you, did your March go fairly as you hoped it would be? 

from: Rob Dial Jr Instagram